Friends can be some of the best people in your life and they can help you through a lot of things that you could be dealing with. There are friends who are with you only for a short amount of time, but there are also those who stick around for a very, very long time. So what happens when you grow to trust someone with every fiber of your being and you’re close as can be, and then they just up and leave without so much as an explanation? This happened to me and a few of my friends over the summer and I wanted to talk about it because I know that this hasn’t only happened to me alone.

I met this person a few years ago and I never really suspected how close we would become. Although there were times when I questioned the intentions of some of their actions, I never once doubted the support and loyalty they showed me. This person and I were close friends but they were also close with some other mutual friends of mine, so we were all happy and we were a close-knit bunch. We had all been through a lot of things together so we all leaned on each other for support. As you can imagine, the bond we shared was tight.

Then some events transpired and this person “moved away”, I guess you could say, and we grew apart. I still remained close with my group of friends, but not the person in question. We texted sometimes but we never did anything together. The only time we hung out was with another very good friend of mine in the beginning of summer. After that, things went downhill.

I don’t remember exactly how this started because I’ve tried really hard to forget about it but the person texted someone in our group of friends and said that they knew we were talking bad about them and that they didn’t want anything to do with us and our “childish gossip” (seriously what the text read). This was an utter shock to all of us. Nobody said anything about this person at all, nobody was talking about them and I still don’t know how the person got this information or from whom. I can’t speak for anyone else, but I don’t like to talk bad about other people, especially if they’re as close to me as this person was. Later on, I sent this person a text, basically telling them what I just said earlier, and I got a reply that was the most cold-hearted thing I’ve ever read. I felt like I had just been completely brushed off. I didn’t get an explanation or anything.

I literally got nothing from this person.

I was so upset. Not only because they believed a stupid lie about their close friends, but also because every good memory I have with them seems like a lie. I still hold all the amazing memories we shared close to heart but now it feels as though they never cared about me in the first place; that I was just one more person to them and not someone special, as I considered them to be one of my best friends. That’s what really hurts.

I’m currently still trying to forget about them completely, so I can’t tell you how to kick ex-best friends out of your head, but I think the best piece of advice I can give to those in a similar situation is just try and move on. Being hung up on them is only going to make you more upset and angry. It’s really, really difficult to do this, I know, but that’s how I dealt with this at the start. You need to try and forget about them. They hurt you, and in situations similar to mine, it was not your fault at all, so don’t apologize for their actions. This wasn’t your mistake, it was theirs.

Surround yourself with good people that you trust. Although falling out with a previously close friend is sometimes inevitable, there will always be other people out there that care about you and could be better friends with them than you could have ever imagined. Unexpected friendships can form at any time and you never know who could become your life-long best friend. So who cares about that one friend who stupidly decided to ditch you?

Their loss.

Hope this was helpful to someone and that you enjoyed this week’s blog post. Sorry if it was a little more serious than my typical writing, I just felt like I wanted to let this out.

Thanks so much for reading! I’ll see you next week 🙂

Anna xx